Me vs The World

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Monday, June 30, 2014

It's a date?

Before leaving for work, I went down to the garage to check my old phone to see if Jin had sent me a happy birthday message.

Nope.

I walked to work feeling slightly stupid and very naive. Then I spent the rest of the trip wondering what I should do about Victoria. Part of me wanted to send her back the usb without my return address and then cut off all contact. I didn't need people like that in my life. It creates an unnecessary hassle. This was one too many times. Overnight, I didn't sleep very well, and thought about calling her to say something like "hey, that's not cool, that's not cool at all, for me, my word is very important and I expect the same from people around me, you've done it time and time again, you said we would study every Sunday and then one day you tell me you've joined a study group, I've asked you out to bowling and you said yes and then no, then on the day of my birthday you tell me you have other plans and then cancel at the last minute".

On the other hand, she did say she had gotten me a present. Maybe she had a legitimate excuse? Maybe she felt daunted by the task of having to meet my friends, none of whom she knew?

When I got into work, I sent her the following message:

Me @ 9:05 - Haha hey no worries, a belated birthday dinner would sound good if you're free this week?

Her @ 9:27 - Hey hope you has a good birthday. Will you be free on Friday?

She means after work right? Not a lunch? Umm just take a guess.

Me @ 12:11 - Yeah Friday would be great, meet you at 530 outside your building?

Her @ 14:26 - Okay I will see you then.

I wondered for a second why she chose Friday. All other times she had picked Thursday for lunch, maybe this time she wants more of a 'date' feel? It is after exams after all. It's also a few days before she leaves for Korea.

Anyway, I wasn't feeling as happy as I thought I'd be. In the back of my mind, I was expecting a complete bail out at the last minute. If she does, that's it. No more chance. I've had it.

Sunday, June 29, 2014

How to not cry on your birthday?

Got a bit of a scare in the early afternoon as my dad had called me saying the car wouldn't start so I had to call road side assistance, but then later someone helped him jump start it. I got dressed in the new outfit I had bought just for this occasion, and went down to get the car.

I knew I shouldn't have, but I checked my old phone and........nothing. Good, I guess?

I went to pick up Thai and Eva from the city, then drove to the lawn bowls place. It was alright, we had as much as we could with six people on a very windy day. I think everyone put up well with it. Afterwards we sat inside the pub for drinks to wait for 6pm to roll around.

Shuing had to head back to Canberra tonight and wanted to make it to dinner earlier, so I finally had to tell him why I wanted to wait till 6pm - because Victoria was coming. They started teasing me and stuff, and Shuing managed to prolong his patience for a bit more but still insisted we go a bit earlier.

We left the pub at 5:30pm and I drove slowly over there, arriving at the restaurant at like 5:50pm. I told the waitress I had made a reservation for seven people, and she showed us our table. I then checked my phone and saw a message. It was from Victoria. I read the word "sorry" and decided not to read anymore. I knew what it was.

I told everyone that she had cancelled. I swear, I could've cried right there and then. I felt like bursting into tears. On top of the usual severe disappointment I'd feel from something like this, there was the fact that I had to announce it to my friends as well. It was like saying "she doesn't like me" in front of everyone. Everyone there except Eva knew I liked Victoria, so it was that much more humiliating.

However, I did my best to press on and enjoy the night. We (Shuing, Eva, Thai, G and Brain) all got along fairly well and I enjoyed the meal and the occasion. After I finished eating, I went to the bathroom and checked the message. It read:

"Hi [insert name here], I'm very sorry. I don't think I can make it tonight. Hopefully I can pass on your present sometime this week. Have a lovely birthday dinner!"

We didn't do anything after dinner, probably because it was too cold, and Eva wanted to go home to play video games. So I drove Eva home first, then Thai. I thought (hoped) Thai would ask me about Victoria once Eva left, but he didn't, and we talked about gaming, internet and delivering things you get from online shopping.

After dropping him off, I drove home thinking about things. I was extremely depressed, and angry at the same time. I was thinking "am I really destined to have to pay for a girl? Am I destined to fork out $50,000 I don't have to Jin?"

I had semi-decided to ignore Victoria from now on. I don't ask for much, and I think I am very considerate of others, sometimes to an extent where it is not in my best interests, but I figured, on my birthday, people might show me a bit of respect, you know? Then Ele pulls out, and Colin pulls out. Even Malay couldn't take a day off work for it. Alright. Ok. But I still had the one person I really wanted.

Right?

No. That person turns around and stabs me in the heart, in public. Was it really that hard to come to my birthday? Yes, maybe it was a bit daunting to meet my friends, a bunch of new people you'd never met before, but for me? On my birthday? Can't do that?

I'm someone who only looks at the bottom line. I think if someone really wanted to see you, they'd move heaven and earth to be with you. So no matter what the message says, the fact is she didn't turn up to your birthday.

And that hurts.

At 32

So today is my birthday.

I'm grateful that it's sunny (albeit windy) and not raining. I'm grateful that today I will get to celebrate with my friends and Victoria.

You would think 32 would be some kind of milestone, I was expecting maybe some noticeable physical change in my body. But alas, I feel the same as I have felt in the last 6-12 months, still a bit old, but also with a bit left in the tank.

I went to the courts this morning to film myself touching the backboard. I just wanted to know I could still do it at 32. No, scratch that. I mean, I wanted proof I could still do it at 32.

It was windy and cold, so it was hard to get warmed up. I decided to try one of the exercises that guy showed me where you keep throwing the ball off the backboard. He made it look so easy with one hand! I fumbled it a few times, and then caught on a bit before just settling for two hands.

I then did the ones where you lie down and do a sit up before jumping up. Then I got my phone out and recorded myself. I didn't think I had warmed up enough, but to my surprise, I got it on the first go. I got a full fingertip of backboard. I got it on the second go too.

Then I decided it wasn't too smart facing the sun, so switched rings, but on this one I could no longer do it. Eh, I had my proof, I was happy, so I left.

As I walked home, as glad as I was that I could still touch the backboard at 32, I knew it would come to an end one day. One day, I won't be able to touch the backboard. When will that day come?

Anyway, now would be an apt time to look at my financials:

Savings $16,876.40
Shares $14,558.66
Credit card -$9,302.29
Personal loan -$24,680
Net position: -$2,547.23

Friday, June 27, 2014

Never mind...

Nope, scrap that.

Just checked her logs, it's working and she used it yesterday. Must be some sort of delay...

Thursday, June 26, 2014

I am one confused individual...

Throughout the day, I felt pretty good. I kept myself busy at work, and even went to the gym during lunch. I just felt good, you know what I mean?

I had told myself I'd leave the Jin thing, and thereby avoiding myself a further loss of $50,000. Thinking about it, actually made me like my current situation where I force myself to pay $10 per day towards my personal loan on top of the extra that I pay above the minimum requirement. I almost felt like I deserved this loan.

Whenever I felt a bit of anger creeping in about the whole Jin thing, I told myself that I shared some blame too - I was the one who told her I would give her the money. When I think about it like that, the anger seems to subside. I'm not sure why. For some reason, knowing that not all the blame lies on her makes me less angry, and more open to accepting my current predicament.

I left work feeling pretty good, I indulged and went to KFC. I thought about Victoria for a bit, and told myself I should be happy I even met a person like her. I was pretty content on not checking any messages from Jin.

However, when I got home, that was a different story. I got on the same bus as my nosy neighbour, and when we got off together, I deliberately trailed behind and then ended up walking around the block to avoid talking to her. That resulted in my coming straight towards my garage...which I opened up. I got out the old phone from the card board box and turned it on.

I was pretty sure there'd be messages from her. Saying what? I don't know. I turned on the internet connection and waited.

And waited.

Nothing.

Was she taken aback by my proposal? Did that mean it was a scam all along and she didn't know how to counter it? If so, where did my money really go? If not, was she still considering how to reply? Or how to get around it?

I can't help but feel somewhat disappointed. You know that usual feeling you get when someone ignores your message? Only this is in the context of someone you like. I felt like I wanted her to reply. But then I asked myself, "do you really want to lose $50,000?" Of course not. I should be happy she didn't reply. I had made the offer, and she didn't want it, not my fault. But my emotions didn't feel the same way. Actually, my emotions didn't care. They don't have any logic.

When I got home, I ended up checking her phone log. You know what was strange? She hadn't made any activities since 7 am today. No internet. No SMS. No calls. What the? Was she ok?

My immediate thought was some triad members had tied her up and taken her phone. So I called from my current phone, with the number blocked. It rang twice before it cut out. I wonder what was wrong. Is she just sick?

I guess we'll see.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Victoria's Evidence exam

Yesterday I saw that my Eastbay order had finally been shipped. I almost had an orgasm. Oh my god. I can't wait until the shoes arrive!

Yesterday and today I have been pretty productive at work, even though yesterday I felt a slight caffeine withdrawal given the two energy drinks I had over the weekend to help myself study. However, I have been feeling pretty bored at lunch time. I don't have anyone to meet for lunch, and I don't really have the money to do it either. Part of me wants to go to the bank to do something financial, just for the sake of it. I've been thinking about applying for an NAB credit card to do a balance transfer, but today I read that it might affect my credit rating. So I've ordered my own credit report and I'll wait to see that I suppose.

Oh, and last night, I couldn't help it. I got my old phone out of the garage, and my initial plan was to send the Korean number I had to the police, but I couldn't fucking log into that email account. So with the phone in hand, and with nothing else to do, I texted Jin and inadvertently went to Plan B - telling her I'd help but on the condition that I send the money, in the hope that I could pass on those details to the police AND see who she calls after seeing my message (hoping it will be the guy in Korea she owes money to). However, the only call I could see was one she made to Suri which lasted about four minutes. Hmmm.

Don't worry, I've put that phone back in the garage now and don't really plan on taking it back out for a while.

Today after work, I was really, really close to punting. I was messaging this place on Wechat, and had left the office for it. But I didn't have any cash on me so I needed to withdraw from my credit card. When I tried, the ATM rejected it, and I got a call from the fraud division of my bank. I ended up being on hold for like an hour, in which time I went back to the office and changed. When I finally got through to them, they said they just suspected it was fraud but everything was ok now. Well it was too late. Guess I saved $250.

I did think about Victoria, but part of me brushed it off thinking "well, you're not actually in a relationship with her."

Anyway, I went to get some KFC, thinking it was better to spend $10 than $250, and then after I called Victoria to ask her about her exam today. She told me she did ok, but made the same mistake as last time - forgetting to answer that same question asking for an example of a leading question. I think I was more shocked than her. She said she didn't sleep well last night at all, only one to two hours, because she was anxious about the exam.

We talked about her exam for a good five minutes before she asked me about mine. I know I shouldn't show anything close to insecurity, but I did admit to her that it was harder than expected and that I would get something around 75.

She thanked me for the call several times, and told me not to think about my exam too much as there was nothing that could be done now.

Although lately I've been thinking more about Jin than Victoria, I feel like I am leaning more towards Victoria and Jin is becoming more of an old and distasteful memory.

Oh, and my gambling urges are coming back pretty strong, making me think about withdrawing some of my money saved up for the bar to have one gamble and make a small win. But I tell myself, you know, if you do it once, you'll do it again.

Monday, June 23, 2014

The P&P exam

I woke up early this morning, got ready and took a bus to Chinksford Macca's where I grabbed some breakfast and then walked to the uni library. I studied from about 7:30am to 8:30am, then caught the bus out to the city. I arrived at the exam hall about 10 minutes early, but a lot of people were already seated which made me feel late.

This time, there was no camaraderie to go around, no familiar faces around me, except Taryn who came over to say hello from the back. I spotted Albert on the far side of the room.

Last time I made the mistake of throwing everything out of my head after the exam. This time, I thought I'd try to set out the exam as best I can remember, just in case I have a need for it in the future. Ok, so there were four booklets, each containing three short questions (5 marks each) and one long question (10 marks each). So, 12 short questions (60 marks) and four long questions (40 marks). Here we go...

Book 1
Question 1 (5 marks)
i) What is meant by 'a reasonable time' in which a party has to produce documents pursuant to a notice to produce?

ii) How might a party object to a notice to produce if they are of the view that it is seeking privileged documents?

iii) What is meant by the phrase "in the party's possession"?

Question 2 (5 marks)
i) At what stage of the proceedings in the District Court may a court refer a matter to a referee?

ii) Outline the procedure of a matter before a referee.

Question 3 (5 marks)
i) What is the first procedural step a party must take in order to adduce expert evidence?

ii) What happens if this first procedural step is not complied with?

iii) What must a party do in order to have an expert attend for cross-examination?

Question 4 (10 marks)
Your client Tinkerbell Pty Ltd purchased the business Ramraiders Pty Ltd in June 2013. A few months after that, Tinkerbell noticed that some of Ramraiders' previous clients had mistakenly made periodic payments into Ramraiders' bank account, instead of Tinkerbell's.

Tinkerbell has asked Ramraiders for $850,000 as an estimation of monies sent wrongly into their account. Ramraiders have refused, saying they are still owed money from the sale of their business.

In November 2013, Tinkerbell commenced proceedings and have had $850,000 of Ramraiders' money placed into a trust account pending resolution of the matter. In December 2013, Ramraiders filed a notice of motion seeking the release of $220,000 of this money as they say not all of it is from payment from clients. This application was dismissed.

In February 2014 Ramraiders changed lawyers. They have now filed a notice of motion seeking the same thing, although they have additionally produced financial statements prior to November 2013 and affidavits from the directors which do not address anything after December 2013. This notice of motion was served on you on 23 June, and it is listed with a return date of 25 June.

i) List the UCPR breaches of Ramraiders.
ii) What should Tinkerbell do when the matter comes to court?
iii) Any other relevant matters.

Note: This question was in the last exam which I royally fucked up. It was during this exam that I realised, "wait a minute, this relates to motions in Part 18. Now I know why they listed Motions as one of my failed areas in the previous exam! All the answers are right HERE!" [looking at Part 18]

Book 2
Question 5 (5 marks)
What are the principles of a plaintiff obtaining summary judgment?

Question 6 (5 marks)
In what circumstances can the Supreme Court cross vest its powers for the exercise of the Federal Court?

Question 7 (5 marks)
Outline the substantive and procedural requirements of affidavits in the Federal Court.

And there, in those last two questions, were two of my least favourite and under-prepared areas. Great. Thanks.

Question 8 (10 marks)
i) Your client, a public authority, has given you instructions to draft a CAN. Outline to the person the requirements as to the drafting and filing and service of the CAN.

ii) You act for a client in summary proceedings who has been charged with common assault. After a plea of not guilty, brief service orders were made, and a partial brief was served. Everything except the complainant's statement (the crucial evidence) has been served. On the day of the hearing, the prosecutor serves you the statement. As the prosecutor, what applications would you make?

If your client wants to finalise the matter today, what would you argue? Assuming you were successful, how would the proceedings be finalised?

Book 3
Question 9 (5 marks)
How might the answers to an interrogatory be used?

Question 10 (5 marks)
What objections can be made in setting aside a subpoena?

Question 11 (5 marks)
In what circumstances might indemnity costs be ordered?

Question 12 (10 marks)
Your client is a video game developer who has recently produced a very popular game, with sales going through the roof. However, due to the popularity of it, your client has noticed some pirated copies being made and sold. After months of investigation, your client has discovered that John Smith and Glen Brook who are responsible for the unauthorised copies.

Your client is worried that if John and Glen become aware of any proceedings that they may destroy all evidence of the pirated games. Advise your client as to what steps can be taken and in what court proceedings should be commenced.

Book 4
Question 13 (5 marks)
List six examples of when leave is required to appeal from the Supreme Court.

Question 14 (5 marks)
When does a defendant waive the objection to the service of a statement of claim?

Question 15 (5 marks)
List six circumstances in which a statement of claim must be filed to commence proceedings?

Question 16 (10 marks)
It is 6pm on a Friday and you are about to go to drinks with your colleagues, when you get an urgent call from your solicitor. He tells you that he has a client with an urgent request. Upon meeting, the client tells you that he is the owner of a rural restaurant, and that this morning, he noticed a foul odour coming from the barn next door.

Throughout the day the odour got worse, and he eventually found out it was due to the barn receiving a truckload of dead poultry. The owner of the barn says he can't do anything about it until Monday. However, your client says there are two weddings and a breakfast booked for the weekend.

Advise your client as to what to do.

I spent the last ten minutes going through the paper and fixing up some last minute stuff, then the last minute doing a mental calculation of my marks. I think I'd be lucky to get 80 :(

After the exam, Albert, Taryn and I had a talk about it outside, then Albert and I went to lunch. I took him to the cafeteria that Victoria took me to once. We talked about the exam, but after that was exhausted, I decided to ask him if he was working. He said he was, but seemed extremely vague about it. He said he had a case in court tomorrow, and sounded like he didn't know what to do. I tried to tell him what he should do, but based on how vague he was, it was hard to help. I was very very mindful not to mention Victoria.

After that we parted, I bumped into Libby in the streets, we had a chat about my exam, and then I caught a bus home. I then drove to Bondi Zara to buy the light blue jumper I had wanted since last week. Yay.

Sunday, June 22, 2014

This time it's different

It's the night before my exam. I studied from 11am to 5pm today, and I got in a couple of hours of study yesterday after the usual Saturday basketball (which went for four hours).

Last time I was here, I was in the midst of mental chaos - drowning my Jin sorrow and mixing it with a cocktail of roulette. Now, I am still somewhat not quite over the whole Jin incident and find myself thinking about it from time to time, but at least I am not gambling.

Don't get me wrong, the urges have been there. Only recently I thought about withdrawing a few thousand from my savings to have a 'celebratory gamble' on Monday after the exam. Instead, I think I will go shopping for a new cardigan to go with the pants I bought on Thursday. This is a far, far cry from my situation before. I am still in net debt of about $2,500, hopefully I will get back in the black soon. Those two impulse buys last night online of the newly released Jordan Future probably didn't help, but they look sooooo nice! I'm planning to sell the size 13.5 and keep the pair in my size.

On Thursday after gym, I called Victoria to ask her how the doctor went. I was in Woolies when I called. She said it was just an inflammation, and they gave her some tablets and cream, but she said the cream doesn't seem to work very well. I asked if she still intended on taking the exam and she said yes, sounding like as if that was never in doubt.

I asked her what would happen to her cat while she was overseas, and she said she'd take it to a boarding house for pets. She said she's done it before. I said I'd take her but my cats would probably fight with it, and it's easy for cats to run away in my area.

I asked when she was departing for Korea and she said the 6th of July. I suggested driving her to the airport, and she sounded like "oh I'm going to have to say no again and he's going to get angry" when she told me that she had already arranged for a guy to drive her. She explained the guy's aunt was also going to fly that day. I half playfully suggested she cancel it because my car was better, and she did say the guy's car was small, but she couldn't cancel.

I suggested picking her up when she comes back and she sounded excited about that, but said it would be on a weekday. I said it didn't matter as I could take a half day off work. We joked that I only wanted to do it to get the o-deng off her.

I didn't know how to end the call, and awkwardly said "well I'll see you when I see you" and she reminded me that she would see me on my birthday. I was actually planning to see her before that, but oh well. I told her it had been changed to lawn bowls and she didn't know what that was, and I said it was like bowling but for old people, then added "I probably shouldn't say that too loud" and she laughed.

She also said she'd pray for me for my exam on Monday, and then we ended the call.

On Friday after work, just like the week before, I went with Malay and Brain to Thai's house for a night of utter junk food and video games. We got some KFC on the way, then ate it at Thai's place. We played Outlast for a bit in the dark, which was pretty scary lol. Then we played Mario Kart again, and then another Mario game, until like 1am.

I drove Malay and Brain home, and then the next day Malay messaged me on fb asking if he had left his phone in my car. Admittedly, I did a pretty poor job of checking. I went down, scanned the car floor a few times, and then told him it wasn't. I then went off to basketball. When I came back, I saw that he had asked me to try to ring it because his phone wasn't on silent. My dad had the car by then and I called him to ask if he could let me know if he could hear a phone ring. When I called Malay's phone, my dad said he couldn't hear any phones ringing, so I told Malay it wasn't in my car.

He asked me to try again and this time when my dad came back I went down and rang his phone, and heard a faint vibrating sound along with an even fainter ring tone. Even after that, it still took me like ten minutes to locate it, but I finally found it and he came to pick it up.

I felt so bad for having done half hearted attempts.

Hmmm, so back to my exam, tomorrow. I feel ok, but I don't feel that same sense of urgency that I normally feel, and that which propels me to try harder. It's weird, because there is kinda a lot at stake here - if I fail, I have to do all three again, not to mention telling everyone that I failed, adding to the humiliation.

Maybe I'll panic tomorrow morning.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Monster day!

Today I was very productive - got through two memos for private hearings which both had a folder of brief material. Yeah! Then at the end of the day after Mob left, I stayed back to study for my exam next week, and got through three topics. Then I went to the gym afterwards - yeah!

However, the day wasn't without its struggles. I found myself thinking about Jin's situation. My mind came up with more and more absurd ideas. It all began with the (reasonable?) thought of providing the police with the number which I suspect belongs to the guy who lends her money.

Then I started thinking, maybe I should contact the guy and try to arrange for her debt to be waived, base don the threat of reporting him to the police. Then I started thinking, fuck that, maybe I should try to negotiate for him to return my $25,000 and have him add it back onto her debt.

But then for a second, common sense kicked in - she's so rude to me and doesn't like me anyway, why am I trying to save her?

After that, the paranoia kicked in again. The idea had now changed to telling Jin that I would help her, but only if she provided me with the details of who to send the money to so I could send it. But then instead of sending the money, I would just pass that information onto the police.

So I had to try to shake those thoughts off all day.

After gym, whilst waiting for the bus, I called Victoria. She picked up after two rings, much faster than I expected. I called her Charmander lol. I asked her how she was and if she was better now. She said she wasn't, which surprised me. She said she woke up last Friday morning unable to move her left knee. She said she couldn't really move it and was in pain on the weekend, and it was really red.

She said she went to see the doctor today and had an x-ray, but it still remained a mystery. She said she will have to go to the hospital tomorrow for an MRI at 8am. I offered to drive her but, as expected, she said no. I tried to insist but she said no.

She then asked me how I was, and I told her how I had been studying after work and had just finished at the gym. Also told her that the guy at work also taking the bar exams went home sick today and thinks I gave him something.

I told her I haven't listened to all the music she gave me yet, but I have listened to some and really like it. She said she would give me more hip hop next time from the 90's to early 2000's. What I didn't tell her was that I dropped her usb on the street today and nearly lost it. It must've been tangled with my work lanyard which I stuffed into my bag, and when I grabbed my lanyard out today, the usb fell out with it.

I told her I'd let her rest and ended the call.

When I got home, I went to my garage and dug out my phone. Biscuit had messaged me a few days ago asking me if I missed her. I think she is short on money. I messaged back saying I couldn't go to her place anymore, but would do lunch if she ever needed to talk. I do feel a bit sorry for her and hope she can find a good path, but I won't be giving her any money.

Oh, and the Spurs won today! Woohoo!

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Still a bit of fire inside me...

I had planned to text Victoria to ask if she wanted some antibiotics I got from my doctor, but I was pretty sure she'd say no, so at lunch I decided to go to her work and give it to her if I saw her. I had imagined her working at the front counter of the registry, but when I got there, it seemed like only a few counters were in place, and she was nowhere in sight.

So at 14:06, I texted her "hey Charmander, are you at work today?"

She replied 11 minutes later "Hi [insert name here], Charmander is not working today. What's up?"

That actually made me chuckle. So cute. At 14:32, I said "Haha. I had to see the doctor yesterday and he gave me some antibiotics, just wanted to see if you needed them?"

It then went silent for a long time. As I was changing in my office at the end of the day, I started to feel that feeling of insecurity creep all over me. Then, my phone vibrated. She replied at 17:16 "I also went to see the doctor and now have some antibiotics. Thank you for kindly asking. :)"

I wonder if she thinks I would get pissed and ignore her if she didn't thank me for these offers, like how she thanked me for inviting her to my birthday. Hmmm. Makes me feel like a dick now.

At 17:42, I replied "Well I hope you're feeling better. If you need any other drugs, I am happy to supply :)"

That was sent while I was on the train on the way to basketball. We played The Matadors. I wasn't even planning to go, but I heard we were short on players. We cruised through the first half, running fast breaks, having perfect ball movement, and basically slicing their defence up with ease. We took a 23-10 lead at halftime.

Then in the second half, we took it too easy. They hit multiple threes and before we knew it, we had not only lost the lead, but they were leading by quite a lot. One time I had the ball just inside the three point line, and the defender goes "he won't shoot it, he'll miss" and backed off me. So I shot it and swished. I felt like giving him the finger as I jogged back on defense.

Then Mark decided his back didn't hurt after all and came in, and then Derek arrived late, so Kelvin and I sat out. We crawled back slowly, and with four seconds to go, Jun ran up the court and jacked up a long two and was fouled. He hit both free throws to tie the game.

We were very lucky.

Queen's Birthday long weekend

On Monday I met up with the guys for lunch, which kinda turned into a dinner. I was supposed to pick them up at 3pm, but Thai was late, so that pushed everything back a bit.

I drove to Central and called him, and he said he woke up late so I waited a bit. It must've been a bit awkward for him because I was coughing a lot, and it was raining outside so we couldn't open the windows. At least he didn't say anything.

By now I had really lost my voice, so talking was a bit painful, though I felt like I had to keep him company at least until we got someone else in the car. I picked up Shuing next, and he was reluctant to get in my car because I was sick, which annoyed me a bit. We met G at the Bra, and we went into the Japanese restaurant first and had some entrees waiting for Malay.

I think this occasion really highlighted how different Shuing is to the rest of the group. He always seems to be so intense, and only wants to talk about serious topics. So when we were talking about G bringing a girl over for marriage, he was fully into it, but when Malay and Thai talked video games, he stayed silent.

After dinner we walked to Macca's for a coffee. Shuing started his usual 'generalisations' which normally leads to arguments. While on the topic of people doing stupid things on youtube, he managed to generalise it to the whole world doing stupid things. Malay challenged him and said that youtube was only a small portion of the world. Shuing looked dissatisfied with that answer, but I felt he didn't feel familiar enough with Malay to start an argument. He considered it, but stayed silent. If it was me, it would've been an argument.

Apparently when I went to the toilet, they were saying how I was taking things too slow with Victoria. Shuing and G told me this on Wechat after we parted. I drove Malay home first because he had to use the bathroom, and then I drove Thai home, and then Shuing. I was thinking I was lucky to be sick, because I knew then Shuing wouldn't stay in my car for a 90 minute chat outside his house. G drove his own car and went home.

While I do feel things are going a bit slow with Victoria, you can't say I haven't tried. I have asked her out several times, but I feel that for whatever reason, she wants to defer. Maybe it has to do with the exams coming up, or maybe she has personal problems. Who knows? But I've learnt (a bit) to be patient and not get (too) upset when things don't go my way.

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Screwed up at Aaron's farewell

Last Tuesday I had lunch with Mis. We caught up over some ramen, and I told him about how I had taken the bar exams. He did encourage me to go for it, but it seems like it was in the sense of "just give it a go, you're in a good position to try" rather than "you're talented enough to do it".

He also told me Nom was pregnant, which is a surprise. Always thought her and Trev didn't want kids. Hope this will tame her down a bit.

Mis shouted lunch, which was cool cause I was probably gonna struggle a bit given I had to buy Ele a birthday present.

On Thursday I had lunch with Ele and gave her a nice water bottle for her birthday (her birthday is on the 9th). This time we didn't talk about things too deep, but she did talk about shares in GNC, and about how they had dropped on some news which she thought was positive, so she went all in and bought $7,000 worth. I told her I'd check out what the forums said about it, and she said she didn't need to know what other people thought about it.

She did compliment me on the coat I was wearing, which was the one I bought from Korea. I must admit, it is pretty cool and no one else has this type of style here.

On Friday I was pretty sick, coughing a lot but still went to work because I didn't want people to think I was trying to get a four day weekend with the public holiday coming up. I met up with Genie at the post office where I sent off the Maleficent playing cards I sold, which turned out to be a loss for me after all the friggin' postage fees.

We went to Macca's for lunch and she told me that she got a permanent SLO job. I congratulated her, but to be honest, I didn't think she'd get it, especially given how there were job cuts and lots of people were pushed down a level. I wonder how or why she got it. But I guess I should be happy for her, and it's none of my business now anyway since I don't work there. She did tell me that Maria got knocked down a level so she might be struggling a bit with her relatively new mortgage.

On Saturday I played four hours of basketball, despite being sick. I just loved it so much out there I forgot about my cold/flu. I wish I could stay young and play basketball forever.

After basketball I was a good boy and got some study done at the library, then went to the gym. At the courts, I asked a guy what exercises he did to jump so high and he showed me, so I tried one of them at the gym. It was tougher than it looked. They were basically:

1. Keep throwing the ball up at the backboard and jumping to 'alley-oop' it with alternating hands.

2. Lie down as if you're going to do a sit up, then do the sit up and in the same motion stand up on your feet and jump as high as you can.

3. Rum from the three point line, jump to touch the backboard, run back to the three point line.

I really appreciated him giving me those tips.

On Sunday after studying with Victoria, I went to a pub to meet up with some guys from Saturday basketball for Aaron's farewell. I wasn't feeling well at all, and thought about not going, but didn't want to be seen as 'chickening out'. I got dressed up in my Harvey Specter outfit and drove out there. Parking took a while but eventually found a spot somewhere down the hill.

As I was walking up the hill, I felt the unfortunately familiar chill in the air, which seemed to attack straight at me lungs. Before I knew it, I could feel myself having trouble breathing, but told myself I could manage.

When I got there I saw the guys, said hello in my hoarse, husky voice, and got myself a drink and a bowl of chips. Here's where things got really bad. I already couldn't talk due to my sore throat, but each little sip of lemonade made my throat feel better, however it made my asthma worse. The chips made my asthma feel better because it was warm, but it hurt my throat to eat fried foods.

Fuck.

I sat there nibbling away at my chip while Matt was asking me if I was alright. I must've seemed like a fucking idiot. After a while I said I was going to the toilet but went back to my car. I was struggling to look for my asthma puffers. I felt like James Bond in Casino Royale when he was poisoned and needed to get back to his car. I found it, and it made me feel better, but I went back home anyway, sending Matt and Aaron a message apologising.

What a fool I feel like.

Sunday, June 08, 2014

What is causing Victoria's anxiety?

Woke up today at 8am and went out to wash the car. I had plans in my mind for the day with Victoria, which involved the car. Amazing thing is, pretty much everything went according to plan.

I got dressed up in my Harvey Specter casual outfit, then drove to the Wick to get a pack of Buttermenthols for my throat, and a Lindt chocolate bar for Victoria. I then drove to the library and when I got there, saw the clock and realised I was 40 minutes late.

I found her in the area we used to sit in, and gave her the chocolate bar without saying a word. My sore throat had gotten worse, and my voice was now extremely husky. I sat down and unpacked my things, and I heard her rumbling through her own things. She then came over and gave me an apple and a mandarin, and said she thought about giving me chocolate but thought this would be healthier.

We then studied in silence for the next two and a half hours. When it got to around noon, I wondered if she wanted to go to lunch. I decided to let her ask instead of me. Nothing happened so I kept studying. Miraculously, despite not having had breakfast, I wasn't hungry at all. Even more miraculous was the fact that I got some good, hardcore studying done. A lot of things were starting to come back to me now.

At 1pm she came and asked if I wanted to go to lunch. I was so into my studying, and was so close to finishing a 'session', that I asked her for an extra five minutes. I noticed she didn't look as bubbly as normal. I wondered if it was because she wasn't wearing any make up, or if she wasn't that excited to see me, or if she was sick. After I had finished, I packed up, and she heard me too and started packing up.

As we walked off I asked what she was studying today and she said evidence. She told me she wasn't feeling too well, and she wanted to go to a pharmacy after lunch. I asked if she wanted to go to the Wick, and she said yes, and added there was a pharmacy there. When she heard me speak, she asked if I wasn't feeling too well either, and I said yes, joking that we would make each other sick. I noticed she was indeed wearing make up, so she must've appeared a bit down because she was sick. She said it was cold and put her hand on top of mine, adding "this is how cold it feels".

As we headed to the car park, she was telling me how she couldn't sleep last night. I said I couldn't sleep either due to all my coughing, but she didn't say anything which made me think she couldn't sleep for a different reason. She said she slept at 1am and woke up at 3am feeling anxious, which prevented her from going back to sleep. She said she thought she was a normally positive person, but sometimes she thinks bad things may happen, and this is what is causing her anxiousness. I didn't say anything and allowed her to talk, hoping she'd elaborate, but she then said it was a bit personal and she might tell me one day. I half jokingly asked if someone had broken into her house and she said no. I wonder what it could be?

As we neared her car, I said I would drive. She asked me if I drove today and I said yes. I asked if she could guess which car, she looked around and guessed it was the one parked next to hers. She said she would put her stuff in her car first, and then got into my car. I held out a basketball for her and gave it to her, but to my disappointment, she just put it to her left near her legs.

She said something about my car, and I told her it was my first car so it has a lot of value to me. As we passed the hospital, I pointed at it and said that was where I had my knee surgery. She sounded like she didn't know, but I was pretty sure I had told her before. She asked "you have had knee surgery?" and I told her about how I tore my ACL in the last minute of the last game of the season which didn't matter. She was fiddling around with my dog tag hung around the rear view mirror and asked me when it was. I thought she meant the dog tag, and she said she meant the knee surgery. I told her I tore it in 2009 and had the surgery in 2010. She asked if I was all better now, and I said I can't jump as high because they used one of my hamstrings to thread it through, and I can't bend it as far, and there's also a spot where I don't have any feelings.

She then asked me when I got the dog tag and I said also in 2010 in QLD, when I used to drive three hours up there every weekend.

When I entered the Wick shopping centre, she said she had never been here, and I asked "chin cha?" which seemed to surprise her a bit. She said she would put on her hat, which was a beanie, and I laughed at her a bit. She looked so cute wearing that, but then she took it off. Before we got out of the car, I asked if she could do me a favour. I grabbed my basketball and marker from the back seat and asked if she could draw my hand print on it. I explained to her I have always drawn my left hand because I am right handed and need my right hand to draw, and people keep asking me why so I want my right hand drawn and asked if she could help. She did, and did it rather carefully, resting one hand on mine as she worked the marker around my hand shape. She apologised if she was getting any of the ink onto my hand and I said that was expected. When she completed it, I asked if she wanted hers drawn on, and she said no. She asked why I did it, and I said people write their names on theirs, and I have used my hand since I was in high school. Later on I realised that there was minimal amount of ink on my hand - she must've been really careful.

When we got to the top level where the shops are, I asked what she wanted to eat, and as I had expected, she asked me to choose. I said there was a Japanese place I had passed many times but never tried, and she said ok, adding that it was good to try something new.

I asked her what would happen to her car while she was overseas, and she said nothing, she would just leave it outdoors. I said I was happy to look after it if she wanted. She said she might get her family friends to keep an eye on it, but it did sound like she might take me up on the offer if need be. I half joked that I would return it with heaps of mileage added.

As we crossed the road towards the restaurant, I said I would give her the nickname of Charmander from now on. She asked if it was because of the hat she put on earlier, and I just laughed. The truth is, because it starts with her last name, and the character is cute but has some fire within, like her.

We went in and sat down at a table. I gave her the Korean money I had brought with me, and she seemed impressed as she took it. She said she hadn't seen Korean money for such a long time. I gave it to her because she is travelling there in July. She said she would use it to get me some o-deng. I said I wanted it hot and she said it would be frozen. I asked her to get it hot and carry it on the plane. Don't think she likes that type of immature humour.

I asked if Michael ever told her about the UTS course I went to with him, and she said no, and that the last time she saw him was two weeks ago. I told her the story about how the guy next to me had casts around both arms and fell down on the desk full while dozing off lol. She told me about her study session with Albert yesterday. I said it always feels like a test around him. She said she knew what I meant, and added that he seems to know his things on the surface but when you ask him further questions about it, he can't answer it. I said there's a difference between knowing and understanding, and he seems to know it without understanding it. She said he wasn't a malicious guy though, and I wondered why she said that. She said she wasn't feeling well yesterday and left the study session early. She said she felt worse today.

We both ordered the set menu and I asked her about her uni years. She said she did her Commerce/Marketing at Macquarie Uni, and then did her 'JD' at UNSW. She said this was filled with mainly older students, average age being 35. She said it was really tough, because the lecturers expected you to get a lot of work done, and that in class they would ask you a question and not move on until you could answer the question. She said she thought she was very lucky to have gotten through without failing anything, and said that her average mark was 73. I said that was nearly honours, but she said at her uni honours only went to the top 4%.

I asked if she had many friends and she said yes, and that she still keeps in touch with some of them now. She said some have their own law firms and are making a lot of money doing conveyancing.

I asked if people at her uni hid books and she said they did and it was very competitive. She said she has even found law books from the upper campus in the lower campus library, and felt sorry for the librarians who had to take it back.

She asked me about my uni days, and I said I used to wait for the library to open and would be in there all day unless I had a class or I went out to get something to eat. I also told her I had two close friends, but one of them has changed a lot since he started his own firm and was making a lot of money. I told her he was cheating on his wife a lot.

She asked me if I had ever thought about starting my own firm and I said yes, and that it was still a possibility. I told her the story once of how a client offered to have me work for him in my own firm.

The miso soup arrived first, and I drank mine but she didn't touch hers. When I finished, she gave me her one and said she didn't want it, but wanted my bowl, as she swapped the two bowls around. This is despite hearing me cough all day earlier in the library.

When the food came, the first thing she did was give me some of hers. I reciprocated and gave her some of mine.

We talked about her work, and she told me about this one court matter where a male witness turned up dressed as a female, and refused to be sworn in. She said that created so much trouble, and that was the reason she couldn't meet me for lunch that day a few weeks ago.

I told her there was a job opening at my place. She looked really grateful for me telling her, and asked if she should apply. I said there was no harm in applying, but added that the paralegal at my place might have an advantage, but I wasn't sure if my manager liked him or not. She looked like she was considering it.

I asked her what she was doing on the Sunday following the exams and she said she wasn't sure. I asked if she wanted to come to my birthday dinner and she said yes. She thanked me for inviting her. I told her it would be at a Vietnamese restaurant in Cabramatta for chilli crab, and asked if she had ever been out there and she said no. I asked if she celebrated her birthdays and she said yes, just with a dinner.

I told her about a case my colleague had back when I was a PLT student. I said I watched the accused say in the witness box that he never bashed the victim, and after he won, he came over to us and said "yeah I did it". She asked me how that made me feel, and I said that the system doesn't work.

I told her I wanted to be a court officer when I retire, and she said I should be a basketball coach. I told her I thought about opening my own basketball competition for kids. She said that was a good idea for the future.

She said she might not go back to study as she wasn't feeling well.

I asked her about the wedding she went to and she said it was alright, but people kept asking her when she would be getting married and asked her if she was worried. She said she told them she wasn't seeing anyone at the moment. I wondered if that was a veiled message to me that she wasn't seeing anyone including me or if it was meant to tell me she was single. Or maybe it was just simply she was telling them she wasn't seeing anyone.

I told her I knew what the pressure was like, because my aunty tried to set me up with a girl here, and that I met up with her for lunch once. She said you never know, and asked me what the girl did, and I told her. Maybe it was just me, but she seemed to have a look of cross examination on her face when she asked me.

I asked how her cat was and she just gave a simple answer of she's fine.

When we finished eating, before I knew it she made a move to get to the cash register first and paid. She said "finally" and then I said she still owes me about ten more meals. We then left and as we waited to cross the road, I pointed to a licence plate and asked her if she knew what it meant. It had letters like 'NTGLTI' and I wondered if it meant "not guilty". When we crossed the road she put her hood on and I tapped her on the head a bit.

We went to the pharmacy where she asked for antibiotics but was told she needed a prescription. I asked if she wanted to go to the doctor upstairs, or at least check if it was free, but she said no. The very prospect of seeing a doctor with her gave me that "boyfriend" feel which I guess was what I was after with Jin.

As we left the pharmacy she asked if I wanted any lollies for my throat, and I said I had butter menthols but she said that wasn't strong enough. She asked me if I wanted any chocolate from Woolies. I didn't really want any, but I wanted to spend more time with her so I said yes. As we walked, we passed a donut shop and I asked if she liked donuts. She said not really, but she did used to like Krispy Kreme. I said there were so many Donut Kings in Korea, and she said yes, they were Dunkin' Donuts. She then told me about how KFC, Taco Bell and another fast food chain were all owned by the same company, and that there was one near her high school which combined all three.

We went to Woolies and picked out a chocolate bar for each of us, and then went to pay for it. As we queued up, she was checking her phone and told me her mom had sent her a message. I looked at her phone and saw a bunch of Korean text from a person she named as "Mom Korea" which made me laugh. She said it was because her mom her a phone Korean phone and an Australian phone.

She said her mother told her that kiwis would help her sleep. I asked if she wanted any kiwis and she said no. She paid for the chocolate at the self serve, and the first thing we both did when we walked out was unwrap our chocolate to share with the other. She unwrapped her Boost and offered it to me. I wondered if I should have just bitten it off, but ended up snapping it with my fingers. We did the same with my Twirl. With a sore throat full of phlegm, chocolate was the last thing I wanted to eat, but because it was with her, it made me feel like heaven.

As we walked back through the shopping centre, I drifted towards the fruit market. She soon realised what I was doing. I went to the kiwis section and grabbed a plastic bag. I thought she would stop me but she didn't. I started picking them, and she said to just get two and then took the bag away from me after we put two in. As we walked to the cashier I pointed out certain fruits asking if she wanted them but she said no. I said I'd pay for it but it was only 90 cents.

I drove her back and she thanked me for the kiwi fruits. I joked that I would text her at 1am to see if she was asleep. On the drive back, she was telling me about how she had a friend at uni who had his bag and laptop stolen, and one day some guys yelled racist comments at him from a car. Still angry from the loss of his laptop, he yelled back "fuck you!" and they started chasing him. He ran into a secure building on the campus, and she said he cried to her saying he didn't like this country. I told her it might get worse because Asian investors overseas are bumping up the property prices here, which led to her talking about the topic. She seemed to know quite a bit, citing examples of off the plan buildings in the city. I asked her how she knew so much and she said it was because of her friends in conveyancing.

When we got back to the library car park, she got out and was standing between our cars. I asked her to put the hat on once more but she refused. She said goodbye and got into her car. I went to the library but no longer had the motivation to study. I wandered around a bit before coming home.

Thursday, June 05, 2014

Feeling sad... (Victoria)

I had it all planned out - I would call her after work tonight with a fake Indian accent, and say she won a bowling game tomorrow as a prize in the Ms Fed Court competition. My friends say I do the accent pretty well, so I could pull it off.

Thing is, she had a lecture at 5:30pm - 7:30pm tonight so I had to call after that, but not too late as to be intrusive (like 10pm). I stayed at work until 6:30pm and then went to the gym, but only did the bike as everything else was taken (this is the first time in a while I've tried to return to Park St gym, and nothing has changed). I caught the bus home and it was about 7:30pm. I went to my garage to check my other phone, and nothing from Jin - not that I care.

I then took a walk around the block to kill some time, and decided to walk along Malay's street where it would be quieter for a phone call. I called her and it was switched off. I called her again a few minutes later and there was one ring before it went to her voice mail. Then I heard a voice call out from across the street. I thought it was some guy calling for his dog, but then I took a second look and it was Malay! We chatted a bit as he was on his way to work (I had to make up an excuse as to why I was walking there), and I continued walking.

Then she called. But I couldn't answer it, as it wouldn't fit into the Indian accent ploy. So I let it die. By now it was raining a bit, so I decided to call her when I got back to my garage. She called again, but I couldn't answer. When I got into my garage, I tried to call her but the phone was a bit stuffed as it had gotten a little bit wet, causing the touch screen to lose a bit of sensitivity, so I had to switch it off then back on.

Surprisingly the phone worked as normal, so I called and she picked up. I began in my Indian accent "oh hello, can I speak to [her full name] please?" and she laughed and said "hi [insert name here]".

She said she knew it was me, and she said I sounded like Apu from the Simpsons. She said she was sorry for missing my call earlier, she said she had just finished her lecture. I said I knew she would be going and asked her how it was. She said it was good, and that it was by the same person as last time. I said she may have seen my colleague there and she asked me how that went so I told her.

I then said, "anyway, reason I called was to see if you were free for bowling tomorrow" and she was like "oh yeah" as if it jogged her memory. She then said she wanted to study with a friend (she said a female name but can't remember) on Evidence, and then she would study Ethics on Saturday with Albert. She said she still wasn't feeling confident about the exams two weeks away.

Albert eh? That guy still in the picture? I ain't worried. I ain't worried.

I was disappointed by her bowling response, and I couldn't help but let it come through. She must've picked up on it, because she thanked me for asking, and I just went "mmm".

She asked me if I'd be going to study on Sunday and I said yes. She said she might be going. I wasn't too sure what she meant so asked her what she meant. She said her study group is on Sunday, but something because it was a long weekend, she might come study with me on Sunday. I was pretty disappointed still about the bowling, so just said if she decides to come then to message me, then I ended the conversation.

I'm feeling pretty sad right now. You know what makes me upset? The fact that she has now expressed eagerness at going on TWO occasions and then rejected me when I tried to lock it down. Like, don't give me false hope in the first place.

But I wonder if she just wants to defer anything happening until after the exams? Am I being unreasonable to try to have something happen before the exams?

Monday, June 02, 2014

Guess who else is sitting the bar exams!

Today was one of the most productive days at work I have had in a long time. I only checked my phone twice, and that was once during lunch, and once at like 4:45pm! The odd thing was, I kept myself so occupied I didn't even have the urge to check it!

I started the day working on Marc's report, then went out at 11am with Aaron for a meeting with Imad from my old office. I think this was key - letting getting me out of the office. I am so used to court, that now sitting at my desk all day takes all forms of motivation away from me.

The meeting went pretty well. I got to see the new office that people from my old job are in. It's not too bad - apart from the cubicles I most likely would've had to share with others. I got the feeling Imad was testing me a little bit. He was nice enough to take us out for a coffee to talk about the matter. I saw some people I knew and said hi to them. A few others were surprised to see me. We actually bumped into Maria as we were waiting for the lifts and she came out of one. She looked so shocked seeing me lol.

After that I went out for a walk to the post office to check something, then returned to the office to have my lunch. I spent the rest of the day working diligently. It felt so good.

I left at 5pm on the dot to attend the Bar Ass lecture for the exam I'm sitting. Can't believe they held it at 5pm. Like people don't have to work. Anyway, as I walked in, I quickly scanned the room for people I might know. Sitting in the back row was...Taran!

I smiled at him as I took a seat next to him. He smiled and said he didn't know I was taking the exam. Afterwards I explained to him how I sat the exams in February and had failed this one. He was taking all three this month but didn't seem too confident or sure about it. I think he's in a similar situation as me, where he thought about it only because he wasn't sure his contract would be extended, and now that it has, he's not sure what he should do. He also added that he couldn't stay here for the rest of his life.

As we stood on the street talking, I saw Mot and he came up to us. I introduced him to Taran and we all began chatting. It was only after we parted that I realised Taran had told me to keep it a secret and I wondered if he would be annoyed that I told Mot. I thought he meant to keep it a secret from the people at work.

After that I went back to the office and then off to the gym. My day felt so good.

Part of it was also knowing Jin was still the same and needed my help. It showed me what I could avoid. When I came home, I went to the garage to check my phone. In the morning I had asked how much her debt was. Now she had replied, saying it was the same, $50,000. I replied asking why, since she had been working since February.

Sunday, June 01, 2014

Did Rich Dad Poor Dad ruin me?

She replied, saying something like "are you crazy? don't message me". Although at first blush this would actually mean "don't contact me", I think I know her well enough to know that this is just her "front". If she really thought I was crazy she would've blocked me on Kakaotalk after receiving my letter, and most probably wouldn't have two photos of our time together as her profile pictures.

I messaged back saying I was sorry for everything and asked "start again?"

Last time I checked, she had read those messages but hadn't responded. The phone's back in my garage now and I don't really feel like checking it. Why did I do that? I don't know. Maybe boredom? Insecurity?

Anyway, I was meant to study today but totally blew it off. Instead, I bummed around all day playing Last of Us. I woke up with a really bad sore throat, and later on developed a headache. So that was my excuse.

I probably should've blogged about this sooner, but for a long time now I feel like I've lost my motivation to work. Remember those days in uni when I'd study in the library everyday? Remember the days of working from 8:30-8:00 at Nom's place? What ever happened to that? What ever happened to you?

To be honest, I think there are a few reasons, and I can't pin point any one of them.

Firstly, I may be burnt out. This is my eighth year in the profession, I worked really hard early on, and maybe I'm just running out of energy. Look at it this way, in all those years, I haven't really truly had a holiday where I could relax. In 2007 I went to Hong Kong/China where I had to play the role of best man for my cousin's wedding. The next holiday then was in 2012 when I went to Vanuatu and the whole Nunjo thing happened. Then last year in December I was fearing for my life that Korean gangsters would burst into my hotel room.

Some holidays, huh?

Second, maybe it has something to do with all that whoring and gambling? Maybe it has had too much of an effect on my brain, and I can't get back on the straight and narrow? It's kinda like asking someone who's been on cocaine for six or so years to just stop cold turkey. Maybe all those activities have re-wired my brain and it's permanently changed now.

Third, maybe it has to do with reading the book Rich Dad Poor Dad? I remember reading or hearing somewhere that when the book first came out, as popular as it was, it gave false confidence to a lot of people who ended up losing a lot of money, due to them opening their own business or investing with false confidence.

I always thought it didn't affect me, but I think it has. It gave me financial literacy. Or in other words, it gave me the capability to recognise that I was a financial mess. It taught me the value of earning passive income, and that basically you're a failure if you don't. So maybe since I've read the book, I've become so focused on money, instead of my career? I've become so focused on trying to make a passive income, that I've forgotten that my main weapon is my career?

To know that every day I am paying 15.9% interest on that loan hurts me. That saying of "using money to make money" killed me when I went to the casino. To know that I'm not making a passive income makes me feel like a failure.

The book really opened my eyes, and it makes me think that I could be earning so much more out there in the world, that my current stable salary of $120,000 is nothing. I mean, are you serious? Yes, that's how the book makes me feel!

Every day I wake up wanting to put forth 110% in my job, but it seems that once I get there, all motivation dies down. I get distracted by my phone and the freedom of their internet (we can access pretty much everything except streaming video sites and social media).

Which leads me to my fourth point - addiction to smart phones. This has been in and out of the news a few times, about how people can't seem to put their phone down. Previously I was pretty bad, always wanting to update my facebook status on the run. Now I don't have facebook installed on my phone anymore, but I find myself constantly checking my phone for new messages, and checking my shares during the day. It's like I'm addicted to the constant stream of information and can't focus on one thing. I surprised myself by sitting through a three exam for the bar.

I don't know how to stop feeling this way. Am I in a slump, or am I on the path of self destruction?

She's in Canberra...

I sent Jin some messages this morning, saying I missed her and wished I could hear her voice again. It hasn't been read.

I checked her phone account and she's contacted a Canberra agency. I think she's in Canberra.