End Caz
Man, I knew it. I knew I shouldn't of gone back onto the Oasis site to see if Caz was online so I could chat with her. Why do I keep doing things despite knowing better? Impulse? Lack of self control?
After last night's game, I went online, but stayed on invisible. She came on shortly after, then after a bit I 'appeared'. I wanted to be enthusiastic and said "hey!" but there was a bit of delay for her to reply. In fact, that seemed to be the theme for the duration of our chat. I didn't like the tone of her "hey [insert name here]". It sounded formal and like she was distancing us.
I thought maybe I was paranoid, but the general tone of her lacked enthusiasm combined with the long delays between replies was almost a sign too big to ignore. The only positive was she said she saw my name in the paper on Sunday. In hindsight, wouldn't that have been a good opportunity for her to message me about it?
Anyway, it seemed like I was asking all the questions to keep the conversation alive, and when I was thinking of a reply, she just went offline. I thought that was a bit rude, and definitely a sign of her disinterest. Even if her computer had crashed (although it looked like she was using it on her phone) it would've been courtesy to message me to say so, one would think.
So I was checking out the options, and there is 'remove member' and 'block member'. I thought the latter was just so they can't see you being active anymore, so I did that, only to see that it removed her!
Oh shit!
So I accidentally deleted her. Oh well, too late I suppose. What was I gonna do? Text her and say sorry I deleted you? It was an accident? Maybe it was for the better anyway, if she was really disinterested. I wonder where I lost her. Maybe at dessert when I went quiet.
That did sadden me a bit. Despite having only gone on one date, I thought she could have been the one. We just had too much in common, I found it hard to resist from the word 'fate'.
So anyway, today I was supposed to meet another girl for dinner, Perlin. I messaged her in the morning about the time and place, and no reply. I waited till noon and still no reply. Ele had returned from China (her mom is ok) so we were emailing back and forth. I had planned to save my money for the dinner tonight, but since there was no reply, I asked Ele out to lunch (I think it was my turn to shout).
As soon as I sent that invite, she went quiet.
Oh great!
I felt like everyone was ignoring me. I decided to go to lunch by myself. I felt like a Subway sandwich anyway. I saw Jessica and Shira on the way to lunch. To my surprise, Jessica ended the conversation by just saying "bye", which I thought was a bit rude. Fucking hell, I was the one who got her her first legal job. That's why you can't help people unless you're sure they'll be grateful. Fucking hell.
Feeling ignored, I also decided to message Claire. Ele and I had been talking about volunteering for some kids' event, and we needed more people, so it was my excuse to get in touch with Claire again. I messaged her "Hey Claire! :-)" and no reply.
It was only in the afternoon did Perlina reply, clarifying the meeting place. Later on she changed the time from 6:30pm to 6pm, which was fine.
I must admit, I was a bit nervous, even though I had formed the view that she couldn't have been better than Caz.
I went to the QVB status and waited. Shortly, she approached me. I introduced myself and we shook hands. The first thing that struck me was her accent. It sounded like an Indonesian accent, even though she was Malaysian. Despite that, I told myself she was still a candidate.
I took her to Chef's Gallery, which was finally free, because it was a Thursday night, although we were told we could only stay for an hour because it was dinner time.
During dinner, I felt that English wasn't that good, and I kinda resorted to talking in a 'basic' way, like the way I'd talk to Naby. We just talked about basic things, like work, life, background, family. Nothing exciting, but we did get a few laughs.
She was a bit quiet, but managed to say stuff whenever silence crept in. I saw food fall from her mouth as she was talking, which obviously isn't a great first impression. And then later she said something about having a skin disease recently.
Ok...
She was a nice person, and I felt a bit sorry for her because she said she moved from Adelaide so she didn't have many friends here. So I said I'd introduce her to Ele. Guess it won't hurt to have a new friend.
She also said she was living with a house mate, and had done so in the past, living with Korean girls who came here to study and then would leave within a few months. I wondered if they were prostitutes. Guess it's just hard for me to get away from that.
Claire did end up messaging me back, albeit it was a "Hi, who is this?"
Well if I'm gonna take this girl to the volunteer thing, then I sure as hell don't need Claire, so I didn't answer.
The restaurant kidan rushed us out, I paid for the dinner (which was $70) and I walked her close to her bus stop where we parted. Not sure how she feels about me. I'm pretty sure she's not my type.
I went back to the office to change, then went to the gym. I was heaps full, but figured I could cycle and lift weights, which was exactly what I did.
Man, dating is expensive.
Yesterday
After work I went looking for a good restaurant to take Perlina to. As I had just started on my journey, Nick called, saying he wanted to give me his shorts so Angelo's friend could wear it. So I met Nick at Market City, and then said I'd buy him a drink.
We went upstairs where I bought him an Easyway and we sat down to talk. We talked about basketball at first, but then he opened up to me saying he was having problems with his girlfriend. Apparently she went on a 7 month trip which she "just had to have" and he found out some guy chatted her up for a night and walked her back to the hotel, but nothing happened. They have also been emailing back and forth.
It's interesting I suppose, because I always wonder why girls like to travel so much. With guys, if they're travelling alone or with other guys, you can be pretty sure it's got to do with sex, especially if they're going to Thailand.
More revealing was that Nick said he had tried online dating before. It was a real surprise because he's quite tall, good looking and muscular. Who would've thought someone like that would need to resort to online dating??
To reciprocate, I told him about my date with Caz. I'm sure he formed an opinion when I told him about the walking her to the car park thing, but he just stayed silent on it.
After last night's game, I went online, but stayed on invisible. She came on shortly after, then after a bit I 'appeared'. I wanted to be enthusiastic and said "hey!" but there was a bit of delay for her to reply. In fact, that seemed to be the theme for the duration of our chat. I didn't like the tone of her "hey [insert name here]". It sounded formal and like she was distancing us.
I thought maybe I was paranoid, but the general tone of her lacked enthusiasm combined with the long delays between replies was almost a sign too big to ignore. The only positive was she said she saw my name in the paper on Sunday. In hindsight, wouldn't that have been a good opportunity for her to message me about it?
Anyway, it seemed like I was asking all the questions to keep the conversation alive, and when I was thinking of a reply, she just went offline. I thought that was a bit rude, and definitely a sign of her disinterest. Even if her computer had crashed (although it looked like she was using it on her phone) it would've been courtesy to message me to say so, one would think.
So I was checking out the options, and there is 'remove member' and 'block member'. I thought the latter was just so they can't see you being active anymore, so I did that, only to see that it removed her!
Oh shit!
So I accidentally deleted her. Oh well, too late I suppose. What was I gonna do? Text her and say sorry I deleted you? It was an accident? Maybe it was for the better anyway, if she was really disinterested. I wonder where I lost her. Maybe at dessert when I went quiet.
That did sadden me a bit. Despite having only gone on one date, I thought she could have been the one. We just had too much in common, I found it hard to resist from the word 'fate'.
So anyway, today I was supposed to meet another girl for dinner, Perlin. I messaged her in the morning about the time and place, and no reply. I waited till noon and still no reply. Ele had returned from China (her mom is ok) so we were emailing back and forth. I had planned to save my money for the dinner tonight, but since there was no reply, I asked Ele out to lunch (I think it was my turn to shout).
As soon as I sent that invite, she went quiet.
Oh great!
I felt like everyone was ignoring me. I decided to go to lunch by myself. I felt like a Subway sandwich anyway. I saw Jessica and Shira on the way to lunch. To my surprise, Jessica ended the conversation by just saying "bye", which I thought was a bit rude. Fucking hell, I was the one who got her her first legal job. That's why you can't help people unless you're sure they'll be grateful. Fucking hell.
Feeling ignored, I also decided to message Claire. Ele and I had been talking about volunteering for some kids' event, and we needed more people, so it was my excuse to get in touch with Claire again. I messaged her "Hey Claire! :-)" and no reply.
It was only in the afternoon did Perlina reply, clarifying the meeting place. Later on she changed the time from 6:30pm to 6pm, which was fine.
I must admit, I was a bit nervous, even though I had formed the view that she couldn't have been better than Caz.
I went to the QVB status and waited. Shortly, she approached me. I introduced myself and we shook hands. The first thing that struck me was her accent. It sounded like an Indonesian accent, even though she was Malaysian. Despite that, I told myself she was still a candidate.
I took her to Chef's Gallery, which was finally free, because it was a Thursday night, although we were told we could only stay for an hour because it was dinner time.
During dinner, I felt that English wasn't that good, and I kinda resorted to talking in a 'basic' way, like the way I'd talk to Naby. We just talked about basic things, like work, life, background, family. Nothing exciting, but we did get a few laughs.
She was a bit quiet, but managed to say stuff whenever silence crept in. I saw food fall from her mouth as she was talking, which obviously isn't a great first impression. And then later she said something about having a skin disease recently.
Ok...
She was a nice person, and I felt a bit sorry for her because she said she moved from Adelaide so she didn't have many friends here. So I said I'd introduce her to Ele. Guess it won't hurt to have a new friend.
She also said she was living with a house mate, and had done so in the past, living with Korean girls who came here to study and then would leave within a few months. I wondered if they were prostitutes. Guess it's just hard for me to get away from that.
Claire did end up messaging me back, albeit it was a "Hi, who is this?"
Well if I'm gonna take this girl to the volunteer thing, then I sure as hell don't need Claire, so I didn't answer.
The restaurant kidan rushed us out, I paid for the dinner (which was $70) and I walked her close to her bus stop where we parted. Not sure how she feels about me. I'm pretty sure she's not my type.
I went back to the office to change, then went to the gym. I was heaps full, but figured I could cycle and lift weights, which was exactly what I did.
Man, dating is expensive.
Yesterday
After work I went looking for a good restaurant to take Perlina to. As I had just started on my journey, Nick called, saying he wanted to give me his shorts so Angelo's friend could wear it. So I met Nick at Market City, and then said I'd buy him a drink.
We went upstairs where I bought him an Easyway and we sat down to talk. We talked about basketball at first, but then he opened up to me saying he was having problems with his girlfriend. Apparently she went on a 7 month trip which she "just had to have" and he found out some guy chatted her up for a night and walked her back to the hotel, but nothing happened. They have also been emailing back and forth.
It's interesting I suppose, because I always wonder why girls like to travel so much. With guys, if they're travelling alone or with other guys, you can be pretty sure it's got to do with sex, especially if they're going to Thailand.
More revealing was that Nick said he had tried online dating before. It was a real surprise because he's quite tall, good looking and muscular. Who would've thought someone like that would need to resort to online dating??
To reciprocate, I told him about my date with Caz. I'm sure he formed an opinion when I told him about the walking her to the car park thing, but he just stayed silent on it.
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